Mukhota!!!

Hai Ajeeb cheez ye mukhota,

kar detha hai asli cheez ko bhi khota.

Chupa deta hai yeh dil ke saare haav bhaav,

jo pehenle uska nahi pata chalta hai swabhaav.

Hai badi kaam ki ye vastu,

jo kar sakta hai naakaam koshish ko bhi tathastu.

Na Surat na sirat se jeete hai jo,

Mukhote ke sahaare jam peete hai woh.

Yun toh hazaaro khwaab hai iss dil mein,

Paana chahate hai kaayabi iss manzil mein.

Lekin kayi kaante hai in raasto mein,

Jo chubhte hai hamme har ek kadam pe.

Mukhota in kaato ko hatata hai,

Har manzil ko aasaan banata hai.

Mukhote ko pehen har kisi ko bevakoof banao,

Dekte hi dekhte apni har ek isccha ko paao.

Kya itna pyaara hai hamme ye mukhota,

Ki logo ko chot pahunchane mein nahi hamme dukh hota?

Kyun hum khud ko yun bhool jaate hai,

Maano namak aur chini paani mein ghul jaate hai.

Kya nahi raha hamme kisi pe vishwaas?

Ki nahi kar sakte hum naaye jeevan ka aagaas!!

Kyun ye dil khulne se ghabrata hai,

Logo ko apne gale lagne se katrata hai.

Par itna bura bhi nahi ye mukhota,

Baccha leta hai unko jiske jeevan mein dukh hai hota.

Mil jaate hai unhe dost who hazaar,

Jin ke jeevan mein kabhi nahi tha kisi ka pyaar.

ho jaata hai unki poori zindagi ka beda paar,

aur mil jaati hai khushiya apaar.

Ye saare gham chupaata hai,

Aur kahin na kahin dil se dil milata hai,

Jhoota hi sahi magar thoda pyaar ka ehesaas toh dilaata hai.

Kya itna accha hai ye mukhota,

Ki isko pehenne se koi bhi dukh hi nahi hota?

Yaaro sirf unhi ko pata hai iska ehesaas,

Jisne jaana hai iss mukhote ka raaz.

Deta hai hamme ye khushiya hazaar,

Magar le leta hai hamse ye apno ka pyaar.

Ban jaate hai hum sabke chahite,

Pata nahi chalta hamme khud ki hum nahi rahenge kahin ke.

Jab utarta hai hai muh se ye mukhota,

Har kisi ko sirf dukh hi hai hota.

Lut jaata hai unka saara sansaar ,

ho who dost yaa ho parivaar.

Jisne bhi pehle mukhota banaya tha,

Hassi ke saath aasu bhi dega, ye nahi usne jaana tha.

Rangmanch ka khel bada hi mazzedaar hai,

Sukh, dukh aur tragedy ka bhandaar hai.

Hum sabhi hai iss rangmanch ki katputliya,

Pyaar aur sneh ke badle milti hai hamme sirf gaaliya.

Yaaro isse behetar hai ki hum apne aap ko bachaye,

Aur fir apne aap ko iss maayavi mukhote ke peeche chhupaaye.

Karte hai log shaadi aur nikaalte hai baarat,

Sehre ke roop mein bhi hota hai mukhote ka saath.

Dulhan jab aati hai madap pe ghunghat oodh kar,

Wahan bhi nahi aati hai apne aachal ka mukhota chod kar.

Nayi zindagi ka aaghas bhi hota hai mukhota aaodh kar,

Kafan roopi mukhota pehenkar chale jaate hai log iss duniya ko chhod kar.

Bade kaam ki cheez hai ye mukhota samaj lo aap,

Soch samaj kar istemaal kia toh hai punya warna hai ek paap.

Anth mein sirf yahi kehna chahata hoon,

In saare mukhoto se mein chutkaara paana chahata hoon.

Ek mukhota maine bhi tha pehna,

Ban gaya tha who mere dil ka gehna.

Paaya maine tha sabhi ka pyaar,

Maano mil gaya tha poore duniya ka dulhaar.

Par jab who mukhota mere chehare se utra,

Toot gaya dil ka katra katra.

Doosre mukhoto ne tod diya mera mukhota,

Kyunki mujhe nahi tha pata iss duniya mein kya kya hai hota.

Meri maano ye mukhota kisi ko naa dikhaana,

Ho sake toh isse duniyawalo se chupaana.

Agar haat lag gaya ye doosro ke, le jaayege tumhaari nazro se dur,

Aur fir kar denge mukhote ke saath tumhaare dil ko bhi chur chur.

Pehno ye mukhota iss tarah ki duniya ko na dikhe,

Tummhe dekh kar log sirf achi baate hi seekhe.

Pehno isse uss tarah ki dil ki bhavna kam na ho,

Aur jab tum isse pehno toh kisi ko koi bhi gham na ho.

Pehno ek aisi ka mukhota ki doosro ki sirf khushi hi mile,

Chubhe tumhaare chehare par lekin who aasu kisi ko naa dikhe.

Duniya mein log dein bas tumhaari acchai ki misaal,

Aisa Mukhoota banane ki kosish karo yaar.

Kyunki aisa mukhota kisi baazar main nahi bikta,

Yeh toh sirf aur sirf ache loga ke charitra mein hai dikhta!!

Aisa mukhota tumhaare chehare se koi ukhaad  nahi sakta,

Pehenlo agar tum toh acchai koi tumhaare dil se koi nikaal nahi sakta..

Dosti Bemisaal!!

Doston mujhe tumhaari bohot yaad aati hai,
Tum sabki yaadein muskurahat ke saath aasu bhi le aati hai.
Jabhi yaad karta hoon woh sunehre pal,
khil uthte hai mann ke vriksh mein jaise hazaro fal.
Zindagi ke iss safar mein yaaro ye kavita likhna chahunga 
aur tum sabke baare mein kuch naa kuch batana chahunga

Shuruwat karunga usse jo hai sab se choti aur mujhe yakeen hai ki woh kabhi nahi hogi moti
Shreya hai uss kanya ka naam,
jo khil khila ke hasti hai jaise ho haseen ek sham.
Hai badi natkhat aur chulbuli si,
hai kido magar sabki dil ki kareeb si

Fir baari aati hai Kasturi ki, 
jiski muhrat hai madhuri si.
Yun toh hai bade hi Nakhre uske,
par hai dil ki ekdam saaf maante hai sabhi dost uske.
Uska yun itra ke Awawawaw bolna ,
kar deta hai sabko madhosh yaaro zara sambhalna.
Hai woh hum sabki jaan,
gaye hai hum sabhi maan.

Fir aati hai Namrata ki baari, 
nahi hai woh marathon ki distance se haari
khilkilakar milti hai sabko har pal,
hil jaati hai peeke thodi si daaru magar
Laati hai hum sabke beech ek bilkul naya rang,
sikhaati hai sab ko jeena with ulhaas and umang.

Fir aata hai Gabru jawaan,
pyaar se log jisse bulaate hai Vivan
Yun toh hai woh Chota Gandhi ,
jhagda karke usse uski behen ho jaati hai ekdam gaandi
Karta hai woh Aditi se behad pyaar,
lekin nahi dekh sakta woh football mein apni team ki haar
Hai woh hamaare group ka important hissa,
aur har ek baat pe hota hai iska nayya kissa

Fir aata hai Chinmaya hamara, 
Genius hai ye banda kar dega ek chutki mein solve problem tumhaara.
Hai dikhne mein smart aur dashing,
bachke rehna iss se, warna kar dega shabdo se tumhaari bashing.
Karta hai ye masti hazaar,
iske saath hangout karneka nahi milta hai mauka baar baar
Par milta hai ye jab bhi woh khole apni baahein, 
hum sab ye bol uthte hai 'hey time kiti mast aahe'

Fir aata hai haamare Parth bhaiyya, 
karte hai phd bhaiyyaland pe ye sayyian.
Sabse ajeeb sabse niraala hai ye case,
lekin nahi uske kisi bhi dost ko usse parhez.
Na hi sharam hai na koi hayya hai isme haaye, 
karta hai aisi harkatein only god knows why
Iski har ek masti saraankhon par, 
sabki jaan hai ye from chinchpokli to ghatkopar
Jamti hai mehfil jab bhi hota hai aas paas,
kyunki rakhta hai ye apne dosto ki dil ke behad paas paas
Hai hum sabko ispe naaz, 
hai ye dost ekdam jhakaas

Fir aata hai Param chikna, 
nahi seekha hai usne kabhi rukna
Busy hone ka bahana hai karta, 
pata nahi kahan jaake hai woh marta
Hai woh football ka bada fan, 
Liverpool hai uski jaan,don't you already know it man?
Lawyer bananna tha uski destiny, 
kar sakta hai ye salsa and jive on any symphony
Maara tha maine usko bachpan ek chaanta, 
jab Urjeet ke dad ne tha mujhko daanta
Pilaya usne mujhe daaru jabardasti, 
fisal gayi meri zubaan in masti masti
ye jabhi aata hai bada mazza aata hai,
kyunki aisa dost sabhi ko raas aata hai

Fir aati hai uski baari jisse maante hai log sabse bhaari, 
Nidhi hai uska naam aur hai woh sabki pyaari
Kehne ko toh hai meri behen, 
par har baat chupaati hai mujh se what why and when?
Jab kuch bhi poocho toh kar deti hai Girl talk ka bahana, 
par karti hai wahi baatein doosre ladko se rozaana.
Banaati hai woh khaana laajawab ,
ho woh sandwhich cake ya koi kabaab.
Khila do hamme bhi woh lazzaddar khana, 
kasam se chidhaana band kar doonga rozaana.
Kehte hai usse sab sasti, 
but plz dont mind yaar hai ye just masti ;)
Hai ye bhi hum sab dosto ki jaan, 
aur isse chidhana hi hai hum sabki shaan

Fir baari aati hai of Sohil the Stud, 
feeke hai iski dosti ke saamne Corona,carlsburg aur bud.
Iske baare mein ab kya kahu, 
shuru karunga toh choti pad jaayegi serials of saas bahu.
Par iske baare mein bole bina raha nahi jaata, 
kyunki har roz iske jaisa dost banaya nahi jaata
Awaz hai iski roshesch jaise, 
gaata hai maano tuta radio ho waise
Football mein todta hai ye haddi, 
but fir bhi sabka hai ye favorite buddy.
Maara mere muh pe on bahana of paan, 
bithaya jab kandhe par moota in my kaan.
Patayi usne apni life mein ladkiya hazaar, 
par fir breakoff karke hatayi musibatein bekaar
Shaadi ke naam pe ye saahab hai ghabraate, 
issi bahane se saare meri line lagaate
Ghoomta hai project ke naam par ye saari duniya, 
par aise desho mein jaata hai jahan nahi pata sakta ye woomaniya
Ye hai hum sabke dil ke hai behad kareeb, 
iski dosti mil jaaye toh naa rahe koi bhi dil se garib.

Aakir mein aayi sabse pyaare couple ki baari, 
jodi hai jaise raja aur raani.
Aa raha hai unko ek nanha raajkumaar, 
Urjeet aur Niki ko hum sab se dher saara pyaar.
Ya fir hogi woh nanhi si raajkumaari? 
Raj karegi woh duniya pe saari.
Urjeet hai hamara bamboo bhai, 
Labmba,chauda,giant sa haaye
Hai woh genius computer ka, 
karega illaj marizo ka.
Jo bhi karre woh banda hai woh kamaal, 
jo bhi ho,karega woh dhamaal
Bachpan se hi tha sabka bada bhai, 
shaadi karne ki thi isko ghaai.
Acha hua tunne shaadi ki bhai, 
iss bahane ek pyaari si bhabhi toh aayi.
Niki ko paakar Urjeet dhanya ho gaya,
maano uska poora jeevan safal ho gaya.
hamme bhi bhabhi ke roop mein ek acha dost mil gaya, 
maano jaise hamara adhura group poora ho gaya.
Karti hai mujhse jaldi shaadi karne ki request, 
but mein kehta hoon jab milegi aap jaisi tabhi khatam hogi meri quest.

Ye saari hi yaadein hai mere liye behad khaas, 
bas hoti hai tum sab se milne ki aas.
Tum sab ki dosti pe hoon yaaron mein kurbaan, 
nahi doonga tumhe agar maang bhi le bhagwaan
Tum sabki wajah se jeevan lagta hai poora,
agar kal ko marr bhi jau toh bhi nahi lagega kuch bhi adhura.
Aao jaldi se karte hai masti, mazzak aur dhamaal, 
yaaro kuch bhi bolo tum sab ho ekdam Bemisaal.

To My friend Urjeet and Niki Bhabhi

Today is Holi and today is the 1st time in so many years that I did not Play Holi with My friend Urjeet. Really missed him today. Miss all the fun we had with him, all the good times of our lives, so here is a small poem that I wrote for him and his wife Niki and I dedicate this poem to our Friendship. Hope they like it.


I want to tell you this Urjeet Dude,
I really don’t intend to be Rude.
But want to ask you why did you go away,
Those thoughts in memory always sway.
I knew you since we were little,
And can tell you that our friendship isn’t too brittle.
All those moments of fun and laughter,
Comes to my mind even faster.

All those times that you really helped,
I never thought you really slept.
Be it those printouts in the dark night,
Or the info of softwares when I was in fright.
I still remember those nights when we all used to drink,
Your wicked smile, your naughty wink.

Then an angel comes in your life,
And then she becomes your wife.
The news “Urjeet weds Niki”,
To us it was really freaky.
You made us realize that we are now fully grown,
And now each of us has to move ahead on our own.

With all the fun and laughter that we had,
We can’t do this any longer and that’s really sad.
But still we can talk to you on the phone,
And that makes us realize that we are not alone.

I still remember the day you left,
Our hearts felt like there was a theft.
But still there was a lot of happiness,
For your bright future and wonderful life filled with bliss.
With our heavy hearts and smiles on our faces, we bid you a good bye,
Just hoping you reach the limits of the sky.

Now when I go down the memory lane,
I became nostalgic as it all came.
Dint know how to tell you all these times,
So just wrote down some random lines.

All these things just make me emo,
But I believe for this I don’t need a Chemo.
Coz this stuff is no cancer, it’s straight from my heart,
And so it doesn’t kill and neither does it make me fart.
Had to end this on a funny note,
As this is the poem for you that I wrote.

-from your friend,
Vajju BOY

Life: from My point of view

LIFE: A word that we all use so much but really many of us don’t even know the meaning of it or let alone the purpose of it.

Well we all think it’s a thing that just passes by and we just have to go along with it whether we like it or not. Many of us also believe it’s a just a long road from birth to death that we have to cross someway or the other with all those stupid roadblocks in between. Some believe that it’s just a damn joke that God plays on us.

Well Life is a thing that has millions of definition coz all of us have a different life from others. All those things that I just said above are true from different perspectives of different people.

I believe life to be one amazing journey filled with happiness, sorrow, love, passion, friendship, spirituality and laughter. We have this life to do everything that we always want to. But as they say you can’t get everything you want. But that does not mean we should stop living our life. We can always follow the thing we like; all we need is a bit of patience and faith.

Some people really don’t understand this, when they don’t get something they don’t like they just end their lives and commit suicide. I mean how can you just end such a wonderful gift that has been given to you by the almighty. It just doesn’t seem right. You may have failures in your life but that doesn’t mean that you decide to end your life.

We all wonder why do we have failures and success? Why can’t there be just success? Life would have been a lot simpler without failures. Wouldn’t it be really wonderful if we got everything we always wanted?

On the contrary I believe failure is one of the most amazing parts of our lives. Now some of you may think I’m gone completely crazy. But I believe its only failure that leads you to success. Now you may ask me how is that possible. I know it sounds a bit weird or even a bit bizarre but every one of us have failed in something or the other in our lives. Some of you may say that we have never failed in any exams that we gave neither do we have any intentions of doing so. Yes I do agree that you may have not failed in any exams but I would like to ask you one thing, do u remember everything by just reading or studying once? Can u just give an exam by studying once and score the highest? When we study just once we fail to remember stuff, we need to understand it properly by reading it number of times so we can understand stuff properly and write our exams well. We learn from the mistakes done while studying and give our exams properly to get success, now doesn’t failure lead to success?

Its not just about exams you know, you need to implement this in your real life as well. Exams are just an example to show that it’s not bad if we fail, what is important is how we learn from those failures. It just makes us stronger in life and helps us to become a better person in life.

Some of us may feel that money today is the biggest factor that makes our lives hell. Because we don’t have money we are not happy and we can not do what we want to do. Yes I do agree with you that money is one of the factors but it’s not the only factor. Money is extremely important in life but that does not mean you just run after it and make your life a hell to live in. The problem here is not money but the greed. We all can earn sufficient money but we all want more. So it again comes back to the failure of earning more money. There are 2 solutions to this problem: the best solution of the two is try to be satisfied with what you have and try to keep patience and hard work so that you can slowly and surely earn good money . The other solution is that you try hard to earn that money giving in everything you have but then you surely can’t enjoy your life to the fullest. In this competitive world we need to be ahead of others but we should not miss out on enjoying our life. We should enjoy every moment in our lives, Enjoy your success and look up to your failures with respect to learn from it and convert it to success.

There are also some people who say we are sad because the girl or the guy we like does not like them in the same way. The new word for it today is called “Emotional Atyaachaar” .Yes this may be an issue that can cause a lot of heart breaks. So what could possibly be the solution to this failure in love? This is really a big problem because the cause is not physical but psychological. When there is a failure in love, the person just looses all his senses and feels like a real looser and sometimes takes drastic steps. Well in this case a person needs to think practically, he needs to shut all his emotional senses. If he/she likes that person so much then he/she should look ahead to see if the person they like is happy or not. If the other person is not happy then what is the use of your own happiness? You should move on with your life and find someone with whom you can be happy with and the other person also feels happy to be with you.

Life is too deep to explain, I have a lot of things to say on it,
This blog is just not enough to say all about it.
Life is a wonderful gift given by god to us Humans.
People say life is short, coz they can’t do whatever they want to but if you live life to the fullest u will surely agree with me that it is exuberant.
Do whatever you like in this life,
Have fun, laugh, and fight, make others laugh, fall in love, have heartache, work hard, earn big cash, make other happy, help others and do whatever you feel is right.

“CHEERS TO LIFE...”

The Love of a Father

This is a story I heard and it really touched me so I thought to write it up and share it with all of you.
This is a story about a boy named John and his father. John and his father lived in a small town.
John lost his mother at a very young age. His father took care of him and loved him a lot. But his father had lost one eye because of which he did not look good.
John was 5 yrs old and went to a school in the neighborhood. Once there was parent’s day in school and everyone was told to bring their parents. John was very excited about it. He had called his father to his school. When his friends saw his father they teased John, They told john that his father looked like the zombie from a horror movie. This did not go well with John. He felt ashamed of his dad. He thought that this thing may hamper his life ahead, people would tease him and no one would be friends with him. After this incident he did not call his father to any of his school functions, he would lie to his teachers and friends that his father is ill or he is out on a business trip. As he grew, he kept his father away from his social life.

Then John grew up and went to a college in another town. He never mentioned about his father to any of his friends or colleagues. John became very successful businessmen and stated living away from his hometown and his father. His father would always wonder about his only son and how much he loved him, he would tell his neighbors about him and about his childhood.

John then fell in love with a fellow colleague and got married, he did not call his father to his wedding as he was ashamed of him and so never told anyone about him. He did not tell his wife about his father. He did remember his father and would send him cards on Christmas and Father’s day but never told anyone about him.

Then John also became a father, his kids grew up and got married and got their children. Now John was also in his 60’s and his father was 85 by now.
One fine day John’s dad came to his house by the address that was there on the cards that John sent him. Dad ringed his son’s doorbell and his son opened the door. John was Shocked to see his dad after so many years. The memories that haunted him at his young age came in front of his eyes. He got angry at his dad that he came to his place without informing him, he was scared if anyone came to know if the ugly man on the door was his dad. He told his dad to go away and not to come there ever again. The 85 yr old went away without saying a word.

After his dad went away John felt very guilty of what he did. His dad had given him everything he ever wanted when he was young but now he hates his dad. He saw his dad after so many years still he did not even invite him in his house, he did not introduce him to his family, to his friends. He felt miserable and finally decided that he will meet his dad and bring him back to stay with his family.

Next week John took a leave from his work and told his family that he was going for a business trip and went to meet his father in his hometown. He came to his old house and started ringing the doorbell. He was ringing it again and again but there was no answer from within.
The neighbor saw him ringing the bell and asked him whom did he want. John told him that his old father lived here. The neighbors informed him that the old man had passed away 5 days ago and before dying he gave them a letter which was meant for his son. The son now took the letter and started reading it.

In the letter his dad wrote:

Dear John,
I am really sorry about the other day for coming to your house without informing you. I did not know that you will feel so bad about it but I was missing you. I have become really old and I wanted to see you and your family once before I die. I don’t know how much long I will live now so just wanted to see if my precious child is fine or not, I wanted to see him, I wanted to see his family.
Before I die I want to tell you one thing which I never told you before. When you were born you did not have one eye and I had given one of my eyes to you so that you can see the world more clearly. I did not want you to suffer so I made that sacrifice and did not want to tell u.
Now I am just counting my Final breaths I want to tell you that I am not sad anymore that I could not see your family because even though I did not see them my eye is seeing them through you and I am really happy about it.
Before I go I want to tell you John that I love you and always will. God bless you and your family.


Reading this John started crying uncontrollably. He realized how big mistake he had done and now he cannot do anything about it. How he wished he had given his father all the happiness that he deserved, all the love and affection that his father gave him when he was young. He hated his father because of his physical appearance and now he knew that he himself was responsible for it and now he can’t do anything about it.

Sometimes in life we all disagree with our parents. Somewhere we also feel that our parents do not give us freedom that we want, they don’t let us live our lives as we want but we should know that they do it because they love us, they care for us. So next time your parents tell you to do something you don’t like or something that you think restricts your freedom don’t think that they are doing it because they cannot sand your freedom, think that it is their love. Try to keep your parents as happy as possible because what they have done for you, no one ever will do it for you.

LOVE YOU MOM AND DAD!!!!

Being social

We all know that man is a social animal
But what is exactly being social?
Does it only mean just to stay in a society?
Does it only mean to stay together?
There are many different type of people on the face of this earth. Each person has his own habits, cultures, castes, religions etc etc.
These factors make a man behave the way he does, the way he meets people, the way he talks to people, the way he interacts with them.

If a person does not like to meet people or if he is very reserved, does he become anti-social?
Well people around this type of a person would definitely say that he is an anti-social person.
So does it mean that you have to say Hi or Hello to every one where you go no matter you know that person or not?
Just imagine such a situation where you are walking on the road and you are saying hi to each and every person you meet on the road, people may think you have gone crazy and need a psychiatrist.
No being social does not mean that you say hi and hello to each and every person you meet on the road even if you don’t know them but it surely means that you should at least do that with people you know. It does not take much time to say “Hi, How r u doing? How is everyone at home?” It hardly takes a minute or two. By doing this the person whom you just greeted would feel good and you surely will be in their good books.
The main question here is what would I get by doing this? Why is it important to do this? Why should I waste my precious time? Who cares if everything is ok at their end? These all are the questions that a person may ask if he feels that doing this does not matter.
But the fact is by doing this you are telling a person that you do care for them (though you may not) .It gives a positive impression on the person. You never know when you need help from someone. It may happen that you may need help and no one is giving it to you but this person whom you used to greet may really help you. You will really be surprised so as to why did that person help you? The answer is that you used to greet this person whenever you used to meet him and that had given him a positive impression about you and so he felt that if you need help he should give it to you. Greeting this person only took a minute of yours but the result was big. It costs you nothing to greet people but it can make a big difference.

Now it may so happen that there is a person whom you don’t like at all and don’t even want to talk to, should you still greet such a person?
As I said before you may never know when you need that person’s help. You should also greet a person whom you do not like. I am not saying that you should hang around with this person; I am just saying you should just greet him so that u don’t spoil relations with this person.
You must have heard a hindi proverb “Musibat padne par ghade ko bhi baap banana padta hai” its English translation is that: “If you are in trouble, you may even have to make a donkey your father” so what I mean to say is that even if you don’t like a person you should still keep good relations with him, he may help you if you need help.

So does that mean that you become a double faced person?
No doing this does not make you a double faced person. A double faced person is a person who praises you in front of other people and abuses you behind your back. This world is full of such people. But I am not telling you to praise that person or hanging out with him. I am just telling you to keep good relations with him that’s it.
Praising a person you don’t like on his face and abusing him behind his back is being double faced but keeping good relations with a person whom you don’t like without praising or abusing him is being social.
This was one such example at a very basic level of being social.

What if you are very reserved and don’t like to meet new people?
I have seen many such people who are very reserved and don’t like to meet new people. When they meet someone new they just do a simple Hi or hello and don’t do anything else and just keep quiet…that’s probably because they r too shy or don’t know how to start a conversations.
So what I suggest to such people is that it’s ok if they don’t like to meet but just for the sake of being social. . This does not make them double face but at least people won’t think they are “Snobs”

Well so that were some things I notice around me... So I conclude this note saying .. “Be Happy , Be Social”

Choosing a career

How difficult is it to choose a career?

What does a career mean to you?

Is it all about money?

Some People are really confused while choosing a career, Why is this so?

These are the questions that come up when a student chooses a career.

A career should be something that a student likes or he/she is interested in.

It can be anything at all that satisfies their interest and at the same time does not spoil their image in the society. What I mean by this is that if you have interest in obscene things such as sex or fling does not mean you become a sex worker for its sake. As sex workers are not given a proper status in our society and nor does the law give its permission. A career should be something that retains your dignity in the society.

Does this mean that you have to do only jobs that have high pay?

The answer is no. No profession is bad unless and until you retain your dignity. Your pay is decided not by the profession you choose but by your ability and your experience in that field.

For example: If a guy wants to be a hairdresser, he would think twice before going for such a profession. In hindi lingo he will be called a HAJAAM, with a really low pay .But when you see the hairdressers like Hakim Alim who charges you a fortune for a simple haircut. Places like Juice hair salon are most famous for their hairstyling and charge big amount. Do you still think that such professions are low paying ones?

Some people don’t want to choose a career because people have wrong notions about it. For example: If a guy wants to become a fashion designer he will surely think twice before going for it only because most of the people think only the guys who are gays go for such professions. The reason is that most of the famous fashion designers turn gays…all thanks to the media to spread such things.

The girls in most cases are not allowed to become models because their families think it’s a bad profession and it only means exposing your body all over. Also the scandals with wannabe models add fuel to the fire.

In Indian society it becomes really difficult for the students to convince their parents for such professions. The myths that have been bestowed in the minds of people are almost impossible to remove completely.

As a result of this, the students take up professions that their parents want them to take or take up the profession that gives them most pay. They sacrifice their likes and interest for the sake of their parents or some other reason.

After the students choose their profession they may think that they don’t want to do what they are doing right now, they wanted to do something else but could not do it for some reason or the other. They feel that they are forced to do something that they never wanted to do but by that time it is too late.

By this the only memory that comes to my mind is of the movie American Desi where the sikh boy wanted to become a set decorator and his father wanted him to become an engineer. But in the end his father understands that his son is really good in the profession what he wants to do and lets him do it. Hope the parents understand this in the real life also and not only in movies.

In recent times, the things are changing. People are not afraid to take up profession that they really want to take up and even the parents are supporting them. But in some cases still the pressure that gets to the student and forces them to take up the profession they don’t want to do and sometimes because of such pressure students attempt suicide.

Some students come to me and ask me what profession they should take up. What career is IN??I ask them only 1 thing.

What do you want to do?

They give me a confused look at this, so I tell them that I am no 1 to tell them what they should do. I ask them their interests, favorite subject, their passion, their interests etc… Then I tell them to take up a career which interests them based on the answers they gave me.

They thank me for helping them to choose their career and I tell them that it wasn’t me who told them what their career should be, they themselves choose their career.

Some of these students tell me that I should become a counselor to guide other students for their career. I just laugh at this and say that I am not a good counselor but it’s the students themselves. It’s only the student who knows the best what he or she want to take up as their career. No 1 can help them take a decision which is correct except for themselves.